The first time parent has a lot to learn about mothering and also about herself. Many facets of her life change in an instant. Her relationship with her partner, with her career, with her friends, but most importantly with herself changes. A woman’s relationship with herself should never be underrated. We can be our own best friends and our own worst enemies. Many choose the latter. We put so much pressure upon our selves to be the best mothers possible; when we really don’t have any idea what motherhood really means. Women receive mixed messages from society and even our own families. We are expected to be mothers and breadwinners. We are expected to do the most important work in the world (raise a child) and expected (in many cases) to work outside the home too. If women choose to “stay at home” many consider them as lazy or selfish. Women mainly feel guilty no matter what route they choose.
A woman’s relationship with herself should never be underrated. We can be our own best friends and our own worst enemies.
With the birth of a child is also the birth of a mother; growing and blossoming. What ever path each mother chooses, let’s try to be our own best friends and not our own worst enemies. Society beats us up enough, we don’t need to add to it.